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Courtship and marriage


Someone told me that "a woman cannot change a man because she loves him, but a man can change himself because he loves her."

This may be true and false at the same time...

But do you know that if he doesn't know what you want from him he may not change?

And by showing him what you want, what are you doing?
You are changing him alread! .

You can't change a man in the sense that a man that really loves a woman will definitely want to do what the woman wants so as to always be favoured by her.

In a case whereby the woman doesn't like some of the behaviours of the man, the man might change because the happiness he wants from the woman has to do with him adjusting some of the characters that is not in line with the desires of the woman.

What i have said above will only work when a man is just about approaching a woman to declare to her his intentions.

Definitely, someone whose some or all of his characters are not good knows, so, for you to win a particular woman whose way of life isn't in agreement with yours you have to adjust.

Many men out there will be ready to change quickly because they want a woman, but after the woman agrees will the man retain that good habit he portrayed when he was still proposing?

He can only retain those characters for a while, but because whatever you borrow you have to return it, your own real behaviors will start roaring its ugly head, this is why you should be yourself when you want to be with a woman for a very long time.

When you pretend you will definitely unknowingly show your real colour one day. If the woman gives you a Yes, good for you, and if it is a No, good for you at the same time.

One thing i want you to know is that no matter how bad a man or woman may be, there is a man or woman for every man or woman. You will never be happy if you pretend when you are dealing with a woman, so also a woman, you don't need to pretend to your possible man.


When you are open and you let him or her know who you are from the beginning then your problem is solved. This is for him or her to know where to touch so as to get the best of you.

A woman can change a man and a man can also change a woman.

Courtship is meant for knowing each other and making each other to be compatible.

During this period the two intending couple are to make themselves open for correction because marriage is not something you can just venture into without proper compatibility.

There are so many ways a woman can change a man without being rude or harsh about it. In a real relationship, a woman has power over the man so also does the man have power over the woman but it takes wisdom to utilize the power.

When you say a woman cannot change a man or vise versa then there is no need for courtship.

Before marriage, you have to know yourselves and blend yourselves to your taste and it is the result of this blending that you reap in your marriage life. You have to show yourselves some things you don't want in your partner and the possible lasting solution.

Nobody is perfect but there is still personal perfection which you gain as a result of your influence on someone.

It is inside courtship you will know what you can take from your man or woman which will guarantee the security of your marriage.

If your courtship is wrong, you don't need God to come down to tell you your marriage will not last.

What you will not tolerate in marriage you must work hard to see that it doesn't enter into marriage with you, and the only way to do that is through the power to change that dwells in you.

Nothing good comes easy. "I love you till eternity" comes with a very great task. 

Remember that if you don't change a man or woman to your tolerable taste before going into marriage you will have to face multiple problems when you are married because marriage is another big problem on its own.

Lastly, i want you to have it at the back of your mind that marriage is the only institution you have to collect the certificate before you can gain entrance into it, and once you gain entrance no graduation for life.

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